Divorce is one of the most difficult and stressful life events to go through. Many uncomfortable emotions can surface leaving you drained, overwhelmed and anxious whether you are considering divorce or right in the middle of it. If you are undecided and living in a state of constant in-decision and limbo I can guide you through some questions to give you greater clarity on whether to stay or leave. Before embarking on any coaching or counseling program you first need to ensure Separation and Divorce is right for you and most importantly follow your heart.
“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow
your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary”
- Steve Jobs
These are just some of the things people say to me when they are considering or going through a divorce. For most people, the worst part is that they simply don’t know what to do and spend too much time over thinking and not enough time talking to someone who could give them the moral support and guidance that they need. Whilst family and friends can be supportive they are not always the right people to talk to when it comes to something as personal as divorce. As a family relationship specialist I specialize in helping people to work out what it is they really want and how to achieve it with minimal stress through one-on-one coaching and various divorce related programs.
Are You Thinking About Getting A Divorce?
If you are considering a divorce, do remember you are not alone. There is help out there for you, support groups and other people who have been or are going through the same thing. There is no need to stay in an unhappy marriage, particularly if your partner is being abusive in any way or form (physical, psychological or emotional). As it’s no easy task to walk away from an unhappy relationship, counseling and coaching can provide the emotional support to help you at every stage, particularly if you have young children. When there are kids involved it can be easy to feel immense guilt and even worry that your decision will negatively affect them, but remember that children are resilient and do bounce back and that with the right help and support they will get through the divorce, just like you will. In fact, according to a survey by the family law organization Resolution, “Most young people who have experienced divorce do not believe parents should stay together for the sake of the children.”
“82% of those aged 14 to 22 who have endured family breakups would prefer
their parents to part if they are unhappy.”
If you are seriously contemplating whether or not to get a divorce answer the following: I really want to get divorced because (And list the reasons) and then on a separate sheet of paper write down all of your fears and potential excuses for not getting divorced: I really want to get divorced BUT …… By discussing your answers in a coaching session it will help you gain absolute clarity and focus so that you can move forwards with confidence regardless of whether you divorce or not. Divorce is a life-changing event for everyone involved, particularly children and its therefore essential that you are fully supported
through this period of your life.
You will leave this powerful session with:
Are You Coming Out Of A Divorce?
If you are coming out of a divorce and facing any kind of problem or feel like you have lost yourself or that perhaps you don’t know who you are anymore than and what makes you happy relationship counseling can help you find a new sense of purpose. Coaching can help you redesign your life the way you want it and help you identify what it is that you want to do and how you see your new life unfolding. This is particularly useful for people who have been in a controlling relationship as they can now for the first time start to really think about what they want from life. Family relationship counseling can also help your children through the transition and identify warning signs to look out for when it comes to any changes in their behavior as well as how to co-parent effectively.
Furthermore, relationship counseling and coaching can help you to re-learn how to enjoy your own company, how to stop cycling negative thoughts, how to let go of any guilt, resentment, anger and sadness in your way of being happy.
If this speaks to you book your personal breakthrough session here.
During the FREE 30-minute call we will focus on:
Confidentiality and being judged were real concerns of mine prior to booking an appointment, however, Nicola soon put me at ease. She demonstrates discretion, understanding and empathy – a true professional, which is essential when discussing your divorce. More than this it works! My life has improved dramatically in many areas since the 2 day program, over the past year my business has grown and my relationship with my family has got so much better. If you feel you could benefit from letting go of your past then I recommend you experience Nicola’s divorce support, you won’t look back
I didn’t realize until I started working with Nicola that I was carrying a lot of anger from the past. This was effecting my motivation and despite wanting to change, I just couldn’t seem to escape my old habits. The day session and ongoing support really helped me put things into perspective and plan a future where I felt more compelled to act. It has been five months now since the divorce and I’m in a much better place moving towards goals that excite me. I no longer feeling low or lonely, as with Nicola’s help I’ve built a good network of new friends, got physically fit and am ready to date again. Over all the best thing from working with Nicola has been increase in my confidence. I now know how to please a woman, feel strong and good in myself and about the future.
The children program was so helpful, my 2 children reacted completely differently to our separation. It was so hard to know what to do with the bad behavior with one and quietness with the other. I wish I knew about the program before. Even though my ex-spouse didn’t agree to the co-parenting plan meeting, the advice given enabled me to manage the process myself. Before I applied the techniques the parental exchanges were cold and difficult, now they are calm and collaborative. I was most impressed by the detail of the content, Nicola prepared me for every eventuality
I must admit, I went into the coaching thinking is this bull***t? and will this stuff work for me? But after wanting to meet someone I could settle down with, for such a long-time, I thought it’s got to be worth a go. It wasn’t that I didn’t believe Nicola’s coaching was good, because I was referred by a friend in the UK who met his wife after joining her 6 month program, but I thought it wouldn’t work for me, especially as, I did and still do work long hours. Plus I am not the type of person who drinks much or likes hanging out in bars, let alone going their to meet women. So I had serious doubts about investing in relationship coaching, but it was the best thing I did. I learnt all about relationships and women’s needs. Most importantly I met Anna, the love of my life. I am so pleased I went for it and of course grateful to Nicola for everything I learned about myself and relationships over the 9 months
The best thing I got from the divorce program was being able to move on and forgive myself. I still felt so bad for my children. Now that has gone I feel so much better and the program has helped me help my children with the change.
It was great having someone to develop strategies and moves with, when my ex’s family got involved I hit the roof but coaching helped me remain calm for the divorce hearings and family which was important. I would have gone insane going through it alone. I don’t like to burden my friends or family with personal issues, having a sounding board made my life a lot less stressful.
"In 3 months I created a happy, safe and loving environment for me and my son”
I hired Nicola Beer to help me get through tough times and get back on my feet after the separation. With every phone call I used to get from my ex husband I would collapse. Everytime he took our son I would get panic attacks. I was very worried about how will the divorce effect my son Ghassan. I was also feeling lost, as I didn’t really know what makes me happy. I felt like I lost my friends because most will side with him because of the things he keeps saying about me. I also lost trust in the closest people in my life. My self-esteem and self-confidence are rock-bottom. One of the first things that helped me is actually working on strength and achievements inventory, it made me realize that I have done and achieved a lot in my life and I am a very strong person, I have adapted to many difficult situations and this is just one of them. Nicola convinced me to become a part of some social networks where I made some new friends, only to find out that my old friends never left me and they actually saw through him and what he has been saying about me all along. They are fully supporting me.
Nicola, brought to my attention that kids value stability, comfort and support and as long as I’m providing Ghassan with all that he needs, he will never leave me which is threatened by my ex constantly. Nicola got me into reading, writing a journal and going to the gym, which brought in a tremendous value to my life. It really felt like I’m doing something useful with my time and things that makes me happy. She also highlighted that divorce could actually be beneficial for kids sometimes, because they see through their parents and absorb the way the feel all the time and it’s not healthy for the kids to see one of their parents getting verbally or physically abused. Also, with time, I can start being honest with Ghassan and show him the benefits of having two different homes. Finally, I decided to get an apartment for Ghassan and I, and that was the finale for finding peace, comfort and happiness.
BONUS EBOOK GIFTS
When you do I will also give you access to my chapter on how to help your children through divorce from Amazon Best Seller “Putting Kids First In Divorce.” and the “7 Steps to Thrive During and After Divorce”
Nicola Beer is a Family and Relationship Specialist. Services include marriage coaching an alternative to marriage counselling, divorce coaching, grief counselling, anger management, healing from abuse and self-esteem boosting. She also runs a relationship coaching certification training and business mentorship program for those that want to start or grow a healing or life coaching business.
She is a US certified grief recovery specialist, counselor, life coach and clinical hypnotherapist.
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